Creating and Maintaining Positive Workplace Relationships

Now that we have created a beautiful workplace sanctuary and filled it with crystals and essential oils, it’s time to talk about the people you work with. They may be your best friends or people you don’t exactly see eye to eye with. Whatever your case may be, there is no question: you need to get along with others at work and they need to get along with you. How can you accomplish that?

First things first: you must become mindful at work. All else will follow. Here are some great ways to be more mindful at work:

1.    Be present: If you are working on a task (like I am right now!) be fully engaged and invested in it. I know; it is SO TEMPTING to let your mind wander or pick up your phone or respond to an email. Bring your full attention to the task at hand.

2.    Practice gratitude: Any time you feel your mind wandering off into negativity land, make a quick list (mental or actual) of three things you are grateful for. It’s an easy way to remind yourself of all you are blessed with.

3.    Pause before starting a new activity: Take just a few seconds to take a deep breath before beginning a new activity or moving from one space to another. Breathing brings your attention to the present and aligns your focus.

When you have interactions with others, your mindful self will shine through. Now, what about interacting with coworkers, clients, and administration?

1.    Accept all; have no attachments: This one is PARTICULARLY challenging for me. I become very attached to things I believe in. So, when I am faced with adversity because others don’t see it my way, I have a hard time letting go. I challenge you to accept all! Your coworkers don’t like your idea for a new project? Fine! Your boss doesn’t approve of a report you submitted? Perfect! When we resist, we struggle, so take the resistance away.

2.    Participate in active listening: When you are conversing, tune your whole attention to the person to whom you are. All too often, our minds wander and/or we are busy preparing for a break in the conversation to insert our own stories. Stop. Listen with your whole heart and mind.

3.    Think before you speak or act: I understand how tempting it is to fire off a snarky email or march up to someone and tell them off. Those behaviors will not help you at work. First, think: what will I accomplish by doing this? How will I feel inside? How will the other feel inside? Respect yourself and the other enough to speak and act intentionally.

There we have it, friends; six quick tips for promoting positive relationships at work. Comments are welcome!



Answering the Call

I have been a highly successful and skilled educator for almost 20 years. What am I thinking, considering a career change? How can I just walk away from almost two decades of commitment to the field of education?

The decision took hours of meditation and listening. Yes, listening; specifically to what the Universe was telling me.  

For the past five years or so I have felt that working with young children was no longer my "thing." I took a deeper interest in coaching adults. I have the privilege of being an internal coach at my school. In a nutshell, I help teachers create a positive school environment. My desire to do this full-time ~ work with adults and guide them ~ opened up something in me that was hidden. I had never considered such a career before. That was my first clue.

Along with this, I became more interested in meditation, Tarot cards, connecting to spirits, etc., and less interested in finding a new strategy to help my kids become stronger readers. My path into connecting with the Universe felt right - very natural, as if this had been my purpose all along. That was my second clue.

My third clue came in the form of my current class - by far the most challenging (for a variety or reasons) I have ever worked with. Every day is a struggle, for a multitude of reasons. This prompted the thought, Is this really what I want to do for another 25 years? Isn't there more than this? That was my third and final clue that, yes, indeed, the Universe IS telling me something and guiding me on a path to personal and professional change.

Along the way there have been hundreds of other minute things which have aided me in this decision. Certain songs that came on the radio at just the right time. Dreams that show me the true purpose of my life. Animals that come at the perfect time with a message to guide me on my journey. I keep listening . . . and I pay careful attention to what the Universe is offering me.

The Universe is calling to you, too.  What is it saying?  What area of your life needs attention?  Listen - the world is giving you answers every day.